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Being human is hard. But here’s how to make it easier.

side chats

Raise your hand if you feel that you could make a full-time job out of just taking good care of yourself (and the people and pets in your life).

We think it’s really overwhelming how many things the average person is responsible for in their daily life — cooking, cleaning, laundry, taking care of pets (not to mention children and aging parents!), shuttling yourself and others to and fro, calling customer service when something goes wrong or doesn’t work, doctors’ appointments, exercise, drinking enough water, and on and on — and that’s not including your actual full-time job!

It’s nothing short of a travesty how most humans sacrifice the vast majority of their time to earn a living, and therefore have no time to actually live.

It’s no wonder so many of us are anxious or depressed. We live in a world that makes being human more of a chore than it is enjoyable.

So, how do we break free of this cycle? How do we actually feel like we’re living, not just working or taking care of our basic needs?

We’re talking about that in a brand new side chat. Listen in as we talk about …

  • Why we (and everyone else) was depressed after watching Avatar … and why this is a perfect analogy for what we’re all experiencing now.
  • The cycle we believe is contributing to widespread anxiety and depression, and how to start breaking it.
  • How you can start to feel like you’re actually living, not just existing.
  • Strategies we, and people we’ve coached, have used to cut down dramatically on responsibilities that eat up time and cause stress.
  • How to transition from feeling isolated and alone to part of a supportive community that helps one another thrive.

It’s about 30 minutes, which is the perfect length for your commute, a walk, or a break from the office. You can either play it right here on the page or download and save it for later.

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And after you’ve listened, we want to hear from you! Leave a comment below to share your answer to a question we asked at the very end of the conversation.

WOULD YOU LIKE TO FEEL LIKE YOU’RE LIVING — NOT JUST WORKING OR EXISTING — ALL THE TIME?

If you’re tired of feeling like “working” and “living” are two separate things, then listen up:

It’s 100% possible to have a career that you feel passionate about AND that fits you so well that it doesn’t feel like work anymore … just living, 24/7.

If that sounds awesome to you, but you haven’t been able to figure out how to make it happen, then we have something coming in a few short weeks:

On Tuesday, May 16th, we’re re-launching the Passion Profile Short Course. It’s the easiest, quickest way to find the intersection between your career and passion.

If you took the Passion Profile Quiz, loved your result (Firestarter, Tribe Member, Thriver, or Side Hustler), and were thinking, “I want a career that makes me feel like THIS,” then this is definitely going to be for you.

The PPSC is always available — it’s the only course we have that anyone can buy at any time. BUT, we haven’t updated the content since we first launched it 2 years ago.

On May 16th, we’re re-launching the PPSC to include everything new we’ve learned in the past 2 years about how to connect your career and passion. More than 350 people have taken the course in that time, which means you’ll be benefitting from all of their insights and experience, too.

This re-launch is going to include a free online workshop, an early bird discount, and a couple of new bonuses you’ve never seen before. You don’t need to do anything yet; just keep your eyes peeled for emails from us over the next few weeks! 🙂

LIKED THIS SIDE CHAT? THEN YOU ALSO NEED TO CHECK THESE OUT 

Here are some past side chats and blogs that will help you start living, not just existing:

How to live more and work less

Something new you have to try: No expectation days

How to create your own rules for sane living

How I’ve tricked myself into having an easier life

NEVER HEARD OF SIDE CHATS?

As you can imagine, when two best friends run a business together, there’s SO MUCH MORE good stuff — insights, revelations, struggles — that we’re talking about behind the scenes than what you’re reading in blog posts.

Our random back-and-forth conversations — while we’re supposed to be “working,” while we’re eating tacos, while we’re chilling in sweatpants on the couch — aren’t planned at all, and that’s why they’re good … anything can and does come up.

We always find ourselves having these good conversations and thinking, “It’d be cool if people could listen in to this, fly-on-the-wall style.” So, we decided to just press “record” and start sharing with you!

Catch up on previous conversations in the Side Chat Archive.

Enjoy!

Much Love,

Rachel + Kristen

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Why everything can get easier when you get a bridge job

bridge job

Tell me if this sounds familiar:

Every Sunday evening, you have a growing sense of dread as the last few hours of your weekend slip by.

Most mornings, you can barely drag yourself out of bed because you can’t imagine spending another day at your job.

You have big plans for your after-work hours, but after 8+ hours at your job, all of that flies out the window because you’re flat-out exhausted. You hardly have enough energy to pick up dinner on the way home and zone out to a few hours of Netflix.

You have a habit of casually scrolling through job postings, but rarely have the energy to actually apply for anything. That is, until you have a particularly awful day at work, and then you spend hours checking every job board you can think of and sending out rapid-fire applications.

You, my friend, have a draining job. And you need a new strategy.

Most of my clients who are in this situation know that they need a change, and they’re desperate to escape their miserable (sometimes even toxic) environment.

They want to find their dream job — someplace where they’re engaged, supported, passionate, and making a positive impact. They dream of waking up in the morning without that persistent sense of dread … maybe even with a sense of eagerness to do something they care about.

The trouble is, finding a dream job can take time. It’s like finding a partner or best friend — it usually doesn’t happen on your timeline.

Dream jobs are rare, and that’s what makes them special and exciting. You’ve got to sift through a lot of “meh” jobs before you find a true gem. While I’ve seen clients find amazing jobs within weeks, it usually takes months or longer.

You see the dilemma here. When you’re in a draining job that you hate, you’re ready to leave, like, yesterday. And yet, it may take months to find your dream job.

So what do you do?

Staying in your current job, where you’re drained, exhausted, and desperate to leave ASAP, is only going to grow your sense of urgency and desperation. More than likely, you’ll find yourself settling for another not-so-great (but-slightly-better-than-where-you’re-at-now) job just to escape sooner.

I have a better strategy for you.

Enter the bridge job.

WHAT EXACTLY IS A BRIDGE JOB?

A bridge job is a temporary job that gives you space to catch your breath, regain your energy, and provide some low-pressure income, while also giving you more time and energy to work toward finding your dream job.

I love the phrase “bridge job” because I visualize it as an actual bridge connecting two shorelines on opposite sides of a river.

You want to cross over from where you are now to where you want to be. Sure, you could always swim across, fighting the current and wearing yourself out (which is what it feels like to keep showing up at a job you hate day after day). Or you could save yourself a lot of energy and simply find a bridge to cross over.

WHAT MAKES A GREAT BRIDGE JOB

So what makes a great bridge job?

A bridge job should …

  • Be something you’re naturally good at and don’t have to think too hard about.
  • Not put much strain on your physical, mental, or emotional energy, so you can focus the majority of your energy on your dream job search.
  • Fund your baseline living expenses.
  • Have reasonable, predictable hours with little (or, preferably, no) chance of overtime.
  • Have a positive environment.
  • Be in a company/industry with high turnover where you won’t feel much guilt about leaving after a year or less.

If you’re lucky, you may even find a bridge job that helps you develop a skill you’ve been wanting to hone or network with people who could help with your dream job search. While those things are nice to have, they’re not necessary to getting the full benefit of a bridge job.

Remember, the whole point of a bridge job is to release the pressure to escape your current situation immediately, so that you have a clear mind to make a quality decision about what you want to commit to next.

I KNOW WHAT YOU’RE THINKING …

The idea of getting a bridge job can bring up all kinds of fears and questions.

In case you’re wondering or worried about any of the following (all of which I’ve heard directly from clients!), here’s my preemptive response:

What if I get stuck in this bridge job?

When you’ve been in a miserable, toxic job for a while, a bridge job can feel like such a massive relief that it’s natural to worry that you might find yourself staying there for longer than you intended.

That’s why it’s important to set an intention about how long you’ll stay before you even get started. Set a check-in date with yourself to reassess how you’re feeling after a few months, put it on your calendar, and ask someone you trust to hold you accountable.

Won’t this be taking a step backward in my career?

I understand why you might worry that a bridge job feels like a step backward, since it may not follow the linear progression of how a career “should” look (huge emphasis on the quotes around “should”). But if it’s setting you up to be more clearheaded, energized, and prepared for your dream job once you find it, then that feels like a positive step forward in my book.

Will I “screw up” my résumé with a bridge job?

Not at all. To a quality employer, it matters far less how your résumé looks in isolation, and way more how you explain your experience in a cover letter and interview. Be upfront and honest about why you took a temporary job and how it’s improved your mindset, health, and energy. Not everyone will understand, but your dream job company — the place where you’ll feel acknowledged, supported, and inspired — absolutely will.

Won’t it take even longer to get my dream job this way?

It may feel like getting another job before pursuing your dream job will make the whole process take a lot longer. But in my experience, it just doesn’t work that way. When you’re desperate to escape a miserable job, that energy is palpable and off-putting, and it can get in the way of you representing yourself in the best light to potential employers. But when you’re content where you are and simply looking for a new, exciting opportunity, that’s a far more attractive energy.

But I want to start my own business. Does it make sense to get a bridge job if I ultimately want to work for myself?

Yes! In fact, bridge jobs can be a perfect transition from full-time employment to full-time self-employment. They can provide some supplementary income as you build up your business, without diverting too much energy and focus from your bigger business vision.

YOU’RE NOT BROKEN OR IMMATURE IF YOUR JOB IS DRAINING THE LIFE OUT OF YOU

A client who’s currently looking for a bridge job recently asked me:

“Do you think I’m being immature/childish by feeling so strongly against my current job? I wonder now if I’m being too dramatic and need to learn to ‘grow up,’ suck it up, and be an adult.”

In case you’re feeling the same, here’s what I told her:

“I want to say this as strongly as I possibly can: NO, you are not being immature or childish for disliking your current job and so desperately wanting out.

Being mature doesn’t mean ignoring how you feel about something and fighting against the current. Your feelings about this job are REAL, and trying to ignore or repress them doesn’t make you a better ‘adult’ or more responsible. It just makes you miserable.

Your feelings about this are trying to tell you something. They’re screaming, ‘You don’t belong here!’ And listening to that message doesn’t make you weak or immature; it makes you wise.“

BRIDGE JOBS AREN’T FOR EVERYONE

If you’re already in a job that’s perfectly fine, but clearly not dream job status, then you likely don’t need a bridge job. Although, you could start thinking of your current job as your temporary bridge job. That alone can be a huge perspective shift: instead of thinking of your current job as a waste of your time, you could choose to see it as the bridge that’s leading you toward something bigger and better.

However, if you related to any (or all) of the experiences I listed at the beginning of this blog, a bridge job might be just what you need right now.

I’d love to hear what you think about bridge jobs. Could a bridge job be exactly what you need right now? Have you benefited from a bridge job in the past? Leave a comment to let me know!

TOO LONG, DIDN’T READ? LISTEN INSTEAD!

If reading long blogs just isn’t your deal, you’re in luck:

We’re now recording our blogs for you!

Here’s Kristen reading this week’s blog:

IF YOU LIKED THIS, THEN YOU’LL ALSO LOVE …

How to survive a job you hate (while trying to get out, ASAP)

There’s nothing wrong with you for hating your job

Do you actually hate your job? Or are you experiencing burnout? How to tell the difference.

What to do when you feel resentment about your work

Much Love,

Kristen (+ Rachel)

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