Do you have “butt-in-seat” resentment?

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And now, to explain why this blog is about butts.

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I (Rachel) have been noticing something pretty fascinating lately.

Depending on their Passion Profile, the clients and people I do free breakthrough coaching sessions with span a really wide range of frustrations, challenges, and desires. What they want can be totally opposite, in fact.

Firestarters are usually itching to quit their job. Tribe Members want more community. Side Hustlers want to be busier. And Thrivers are craving more space for fun.

But as different as each person I talk to is, I hear one thing over and over again from everyone:

“I hate feeling like my butt is glued to my seat.”

WHAT BUTT-IN-SEAT RESENTMENT REALLY MEANS

If you’re in any job, whether it’s something you loathe, something you love, or just a stop on the way to something else … no one wants to feel like they’re playing by arbitrary rules.

We (as in, Millennials) are smart. Talented. Energetic. Full of potential. Bursting with ideas.

We might be young and less experienced than people a decade or two ahead of us, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t totally capable.

Maybe the higher-ups don’t fully trust your abilities yet, so you don’t have enough to do and you’re completely bored and underwhelmed, just sitting at your desk all day.

Or maybe you’re frustrated because you’re required to work from 9-to-5 regardless of how long it actually takes you to do what you need to do. You could get it all done in half the time, and have so much more time for other things, if you were only allowed more flexibility. But right now, you’re just another butt in a chair.

Feeling like your valuable time and talent are being wasted is a recipe for resentment.

IF YOU WANT TO UN-STICK YOUR BUTT FROM THE SEAT, DO THIS

  1. Figure out whether you actually want to be where you are

Is this situation actually worth changing? Are you going to be out of there in 4 months, anyway? Do you want to be in a totally different industry?

Yeah, having more flexibility and autonomy would be great … but don’t mistake butt-in-seat resentment with, “I’m totally unfulfilled here, and wouldn’t be happy regardless of whether my butt was being utilized better.”

  1. Speak up.

If you genuinely want to be where you are, but you’re just feeling underwhelmed and inflexible, then being honest could work wonders for you.

I know this will terrify some of you, but if you want things to change you’re likely going to have to ask for it to change.

Gulp.

Employers and higher-ups dream of the kind of people who care enough to say, “I really love being here, and I want to be able to do as much as I can. But right now, I’m feeling kind of stuck. I could do so much more/be so much happier/learn so much IF …”

What could your boss possibly say? “Oh man, she sucks for wanting to be happier. I wish she didn’t value herself as much.”

I don’t think so.

LET’S HAVE A REALITY CHECK

Most people are scared to ask for more flexibility because they think it will make them look lazy or disengaged. But framing it in a positive way that becomes a win-win for you and them is totally possible.

It goes something like, “How about we try an experiment? I’d like the opportunity to exert more autonomy over my schedule. Can we try this {insert what you want} for a few weeks and then evaluate how it’s going?”

It’s a win for you, because you get the flexibility and autonomy you want. It’s a win for them, because you’ll probably be far more productive when you’re happy.

And remember, most people aren’t mind-readers. And rules are meant to be bent, if not broken. Which means if you don’t assume every rule is set in stone, and if you speak up about what you want, the worst that can happen is that nothing changes. It’s certainly not going to get worse.

Do you know what’s more likely to happen? You actually get what you want, or you at least get the space to compromise.

THINGS ARE GOING TO CHANGE

Making people adhere to an arbitrary 9-to-5, 40-hour, butt-in-seat system is going to become a thing of the past. And good riddance.

Millennials are pretty cool. As we age, we’re going to revolutionize a lot of things. In a few years I bet you’ll see flexible work schedules and entry-level jobs that don’t suck becoming the norm, instead of the dream.

But until then, you don’t have to accept the current “normal.” You can ask for more, or find somewhere that will appreciate you more, and figure out your passion to boot.

So, over to you. What do you think? Have you ever suffered from “butt-in-seat resentment?” Share you story with us in the comments!

Much Love,

Rachel + Kristen

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