Happy New Year’s Eve!
As you’re getting ready for the new year, you might be thinking about resolutions and goal setting and all the things you want to add to your life this year, and that’s awesome. Keep in mind, though, that what you remove from your life can sometimes have an even bigger impact.
That’s why we’re giving you 5 limiting beliefs to let go of in 2014 … it’s time to let go of this emotional junk once and for all!
1. No one will pay me to do what I love. As we’ve learned from the amazing Kate Northrup, money is a stand-in for what people value. When you start using what you love as a means of providing value to other people, then money will start to flow in. The key is to let go of your agenda and just genuinely be of service.
2. There are no good men (or women) out there. After a few breakups, betrayals, and broken hearts, it’s easy to want to give up on finding an amazing life-long relationship. How much disappointment is one person supposed to take, anyway? But deciding to give up on believing that there’s someone out there for you is just a form of self-protection and playing small. As Brené Brown says, “Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love.”
3. If I choose an unconventional path, people will reject me. This one is partially true – some people might reject you for challenging the status quo and doing or believing the unconventional. Why? Because it challenges their beliefs or their paradigm, and that’s uncomfortable. But the people who truly want you to have an exceptional life will support you no matter what you choose. To quote Brene Brown a second time, “Don’t try to win over the haters; you are not a jackass whisperer.” Couldn’t have said it better ourselves.
4. I have to do it alone. Many of us in America (and plenty of other places too, we’re sure) have this weird belief that needing help or support or guidance means we’re a failure. It’s almost like, if you weren’t able to do something 100% on your own, it doesn’t count. But at the same time, we’re craving connection with other people and being part of a team. In 2014, why not give yourself a break and ask for what you need? Going it alone doesn’t make you successful … it just makes you lonely.
5. I’m not good enough. At the root of most of our insecurities, anxieties, and stressors, we all share the same simple but devastating belief: “I’m just not good enough.” It’s the voice of that inner critic that makes you want to stay in your comfort zone and play small. But keep in mind that your inner critic isn’t telling you this because she hates you; this belief only exists as a form of self-protection. So when you’re feeling not good enough, be compassionate with yourself and ask, “What am I protecting myself from?” It’s a lot more effective than beating yourself up.
Are there any other limiting beliefs you want to let go of this year? Let us know in the comments below!
Kristen & Rachel