The 1 time you should *never* analyze your life

You’re having a bad day — you’re overwhelmed, you’ve got no time, someone criticized you, you haven’t exercised in 2 weeks, you’re on the verge of a breakdown, and here it comes …

 


 

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THIS WEEK, WE WANT YOU TO KNOW:

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APPLY IT TO YOUR OWN LIFE:

It happens like clockwork every time I’m down in the dumps, have no energy, and am coming apart at the seams:

“What’s wrong with me? Why do I feel this way? What’s the point of this? Nothing’s ever going to work out. I can’t even remember when I last felt good. Do I even want to be a coach anymore? Maybe this isn’t what I’m meant to be doing! I want to quit everything and never work again.”

Well, that escalated quickly.

There’s something to be said about hitting rock bottom and having a mind-blowing reckoning. When you’re tired and overwhelmed, you’re vulnerable enough that asking yourself “the big questions” might yield a really honest, life-altering answer.

Or, more likely … you started out in a generally crap mood and, naturally, it spiraled downward until you can’t see or judge anything fairly. And now your lens is so skewed that you can’t be trusted to evaluate your entire life.

In my experience, it’s almost never helpful to analyze my entire life when I’m already in a funk. I tend to lose ALL perspective, forget that it’s only temporary, and mentally eviscerate everything. The drama.

And inevitably, about 48 hours later I’ve bounced back and I’m feeling mostly fine. Go figure. (“Why was I so upset again? I can’t remember!”)

So, if you want an accurate analysis of your life, do me a favor and wait to think deeply until you get back to at least neutral … you’ll probably get there in a few days.

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Much Love,

Kristen + Rachel

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11 comments

  • Anna

    This could not have come at a more perfect time <3

  • Jen

    I appreciate this message. I may need to print/post this somewhere for periodic reminders.

    • Rachel E.

      Go for it! Honestly, I should print some of the things I/we have written, too … I need reminders all the time. 😉

  • Kathryn

    So many times has this happened to me. I feel like my 20’s are a period of constant transition, so some days I feel like re-configuring all the decisions I’ve made and starting over!

    • Rachel E.

      There’s nothing wrong with starting over, of course. I’ve done that a lot, too. But I’m thinking it’s best to decide to start over when you’re in a calmer, more certain place. Otherwise, our decisions are often very reactive and spontaneous; and not necessarily the *best* decisions we could make.

  • Melissa Knox

    Spot on! Thank you!

  • Nicole

    Yass! I’m currently hving a crappy week n i realy did evaluated my life just becuz of it! I’m so thankful i read dis! It helps! A lot!

    • Kristen Walker

      I think this happens to almost everyone — I know I do this all the time myself! This is one of those things I have to really practice walking my talk about.

      It’s perfectly fine to reevaluate your entire life … but maybe wait until your crappy week is over (which I hope is ASAP!) so you have some perspective.

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