OK, I might have lied when I said that there’s one big thing that Millennials all have in common (butt-in-seat resentment).

I think there’s something else, and it’s just now becoming clear to me.

Let’s back it up to a few weeks ago when I was doing a free breakthrough session with a smart, talented young woman of our generation who was feeling bored and unfulfilled with her job (which is something I hear from almost everyone I coach … but that’s another story).

When I asked her, “What’s your least favorite part of your job right now?” she said something pretty brilliant in reply:

“I feel like I’m doing other people’s work, not my own.”


I’ve seen her particular frustration so many times before in other people. Typically, though, the way it’s expressed is something like, “I feel like what I’m doing is tedious. Mind-numbing. Boring. Pointless. Devoid of higher purpose.”

The way she said it, though, struck a problem that goes even deeper:

We’re often frustrated and bored because we’re not being allowed to be creative.


Whenever I use the word “creative,” I see people jump to the socially acceptable definition. AKA, someone who’s artsy, or musically talented, or who’s generally great at making stuff.

I’m not talking about the Pinterest-y definition of “creative.”

I mean it in the literal sense:

As in, someone who creates something.

Not to get too deep and philosophical too early in the day, but I think that at least part of what’s cool about being human is our ability to have totally original ideas, make new things, and deeply think.

When we’re sitting at a desk, feeling glued to the chair, churning out reports, typing emails, reading statistics, editing copy, or sitting in on presentations for other people, all without needing to truly think or make it our own … we’re not getting the best of the human experience.

We’re not contributing anything brand new, lending our unique voice to something that matters, or generally feeling like we made an impact. And that lack of “creator’s spark” makes some of us feel awfully empty. (Not to mention, resentment often festers when you’re being forced to work entirely on other people’s creations, not your own.)


You’re going to have to gauge how important creation is to you. While I think we all require it, to some extent, some of you will need it far more than others.

Regardless of whether your attitude is, “OMG, I need to be creating meaningful things, all the time,” or more like, “I just want a little more autonomy to make things my own,” part of the deal in bringing back the creator’s spark is going to be getting friendly with discomfort.

Because you might need to have a conversation with your boss, which could feel uncomfortable.

You might realize that your current job is never going to give you what you need in the way of creation, which could feel uncomfortable.

Or you might even come to the conclusion that you’re meant to solely create your own work (hello, Firestarters!) … which might feel just a smidge uncomfortable.

And lest you freak out, or resign yourself to believing that, “My situation would never allow for me to become a creator,” remember this:

twitter-bird-1-380x285 It’s amazing what happens when you courageously have an honest conversation. With yourself or others.

Have you been missing out on the “creator’s spark?” We’d love to know how this resonates with you, in the comments!

Much Love,

Rachel + Kristen

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  1. This is definitely something that I’ve been getting increasingly frustrated over the last few years. At first I didn’t recognize It for what it is, but now I see how I was yearning to put my mark on things and create something that was uniquely mine rather than following commands from on high. I always thought you needed to be artsy to be creative but I am seeing the ways in which we all can contribute to creative endeavours and am excited to see what the future holds!

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