I (Rachel, that is) am well aware that the title of this #ClarityGem sounds dramatic and sort of high-school-emo.

But if you think about it, it’s actually one of the more practical, logical thoughts I’ve had lately…







A few days ago I was on a walk with my dog, feeling anxious and overwhelmed. In typical fashion, I can’t even remember now what I was stressing about.

But anyway, a single thought floated through my mind that (thankfully) made it through the stress and angst:

“If I can’t be happy now, I’m not going to be happy at all.”

In that moment it occurred to me that I’m always going to be able to find something to be unhappy about. There will never come a day when the circumstances of my life are unceasingly stress-free and blissed out. That’s not how life works.

So, if that’s the case, then I might never be happy … unless I stop fixating on thoughts like, “When I get this thing, then I’ll feel better” or “If this changes, then life will be better.”

I think it’s about time I took responsibility for my own happiness.

I can either ruin my day, moment by moment, by finding something stressful or unhappy to fixate on — and I always could — or I can acknowledge that by constantly stressing, I’m literally never enjoying my life as it’s being lived.

I think I’d rather just be happy. How about you?

twitter-bird If I can’t be happy now, I can’t be happy at all. #ClarityGems

How is this #ClarityGem sitting with you today? Leave us a comment below to let us know!


Sometimes it’s just better to avoid long blog posts and cut straight to the point!

Think of #ClarityGems as your weekly shake of the good ‘ole Magic 8 Ball … you never know what might bubble up and how it might be exactly what you need to hear today.

And instead of just a beautiful, inspirational, and shareable image (which is a nice start), we’re giving you some quick thoughts about how to interpret it … because inspiration without action is pretty, but kind of anti-climatic.

Tweet it, share it on Instagram, or forward it along to someone who needs to hear it today … and tag us (@ClarityonFire) to let us know how this Gem is inspiring you!

Much Love,

Rachel + Kristen

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  1. I can relate to this! I find myself constantly worrying or anxious about something in my life and sometimes I think “Why can’t I just be happy?” I know I have to change my perspective, but it is difficult to do. Thanks for reminding me that I don’t have to fixate on all the negative stuff all the time!

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