Let us preface this by saying … don’t get all flustered by this #ClarityGem and go accusing us of being anti-feminist. (Because … please, people … I think we’ve made it pretty clear by now that we care immensely about women and women’s issues.)

In fact, this Gem raises a question that applies to all of us, regardless of gender.





First, let us bestow mad love unto those who have worked hard to create the reality that we (as women, but really any of us) can “have it all.” There are a lot of pioneers who made it possible for us to even contemplate the notion of “having it at all,” and without them we’d likely still be stuck in the 1950s (cooking dinner in pearls and pin curls, no doubt).

Not to sound like a cheerleader, but yes … we can have it all! We can have a fulfilling career, inspiring friendships, an uplifting marriage, 2.5 wonderful children, a dog, a cat, a bird, a Lexus, stainless steel appliances, marble countertops, Frye boots, whatever.

You name it, we can have it all!

But … do you want it all?

Because here’s the deal: In the rush to prove that we belong, to lay claim to everything that can be ours … some of us have forgotten to ask if we really want it in the first place.

And we’re here to tell you … it’s OK if you don’t want it all. The people who worked so hard to give women (and all humans) equality didn’t do it so that you’d be stuck juggling all of the endless options that are now available to you.

They just wanted you to have the freedom to choose.

You don’t have to take it all just because you can. No one’s expecting you to juggle it all, if you don’t want to. No one who really matters is going to judge you for walking away from whatever doesn’t light you up.

The choice is yours. You get to decide. Don’t feel guilty for what you choose. What you value is a reflection of who you are, and there’s no shame in that.

twitter-birdOf COURSE you can have it all. But do you WANT it all? #ClarityGems

How is this #ClarityGem sitting with you today? Leave us a comment on the blog to let us know!


Sometimes it’s just better to avoid long blog posts and cut straight to the point!

Think of #ClarityGems as your weekly shake of the good ‘ole Magic 8 Ball … you never know what might bubble up and how it might be exactly what you need to hear today.

And instead of just a beautiful, inspirational, and shareable image (which is a nice start), we’re giving you some quick thoughts about how to interpret it … because inspiration without action is pretty, but kind of anti-climatic.

Tweet it, share it on Instagram, or forward it along to someone who needs to hear it today … and tag us (@ClarityonFire) to let us know how this Gem is inspiring you!

Much Love,

Rachel + Kristen

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  1. I love this! It is such a profound post and something we all really need to think about..Thanks for this little gem! 🙂

  2. I completely look forward to and enjoy reading/listening to your Clarity Gems! and I will miss them in my inbox! Thank you!

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