“You get what you give.” “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” “What goes around comes around” (feel free to sing this one like Justin Timberlake).

You hear these phrases so much that they start to sound like empty words, rather than deep wisdom. So here’s another way to interpret the same gist … one we’d never really thought of before.

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This one comes straight from spiritual powerhouse Marianne Williamson’s mega-international bestseller, A Return to Love. She says:

“In every relationship, in every moment, we teach either love or fear. As we demonstrate love toward others, we learn that we are loveable and we learn how to love more deeply. As we demonstrate fear or negativity, we learn self-condemnation and we learn to feel more frightened of life … If I choose to bless another person, I will always end up feeling more blessed. If I project guilt onto another person, I will always end up feeling more guilty.”

Maybe you’ve been projecting guilt on to other people. Or maybe you’ve been overly short-fused, critical, or judgmental. When you act from that place, you send out a powerful message that sounds something like, “These are the things I believe in. And this is what I invite to happen to me, in return.”

You can’t expect to receive the good stuff (like compassion, empathy, love, and trust) if your life revolves around demonstrating the not-so-good stuff.

twitter-birdWe will always learn what we have chosen to teach – via @marwilliamson #ClarityGems

What have you been teaching, and what would you like to teach? Let us know!


Sometimes it’s just better to avoid long blog posts and cut straight to the point!

Think of #ClarityGems as your weekly shake of the good ‘ole Magic 8 Ball … you never know what might bubble up and how it might be exactly what you need to hear today.

And instead of just a beautiful, inspirational, and shareable image (which is a nice start), we’re giving you some quick thoughts about how to interpret it … because inspiration without action is pretty, but kind of anti-climatic.

Tweet it, share it on Instagram, or forward it along to someone who needs to hear it today … and tag us (@ClarityonFire) to let us know how this Gem is inspiring you!

Much Love,

Rachel + Kristen

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  1. This is something I realized I got from my dad… always correcting others and being critical, but not in a “mean” way. However, I finally realized that it is destructive to relationships and friendships. I had a close friend call me out in college, which was a real wake up call that others didn’t view it as “harmless” the way I did. Each subsequent relationship became an opportunity to learn to choose situations when being right matters and let all the other times go. My current relationship is full of so much love, support, and positivity because we choose to build each other up instead of tear each other down.

    It was great to read it put yet another way. What you project onto others really does communicate more about you than you realize.

  2. We all know this advice, but reading this really brought focus to certain things I’ve been “teaching”.
    I recently got a new job. I’m a bit socially awkward at first. This post made me realize that instead of expecting people to understand my hardship, I should be trying to make them feel the way I am expecting to be treated.
    Also, in my personal life, I can be short and critical. I love my family and my husband and need to live that out! You get what you give!

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