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Have you ever been guilty of “painting red flags green?” AKA, trying very hard NOT to see (and actively rationalizing and excusing) someone’s questionable patterns and potential deal-breakers so that you can go right on dating them?
Or, as Rachel creepily likes to put it, “dating the same person over and over again, in a different skin-suit.”
There’s no other way to parse it: Codependence is a B, ya’ll. Even if you can see yourself painting red flags green, or dating the same person in a different skin-suit, that doesn’t mean you can stop the pattern in its tracks. The compulsion for love, even if the attempt to get it is actively hurting us, runs deep.
Carla Romo, a dating and relationship coach and this month’s expert podcast guest, knows a thing or two about that. So much so, in fact, that she recently published an entire book about breaking free from codependence for good!
We talked with Carla about…
- What codependence actually is, and why most people (literally 90%!) are on the codependent spectrum.
- Signs that you’re codependent (and how it shows up in all facets of life, not just romantic relationships).
- Red flags to look out for when you’re dating, so that you can avoid getting into an unhealthy relationship with someone who fits your old pattern.
- The most critical things to look for and work on if you want a healthy relationship.
After you’ve listened, leave a comment to share how this interview landed with you, and if it made you see dating, relationships, and codependency in a new light!
MORE ABOUT CARLA
Carla Romo is a certified dating & relationship coach, author of her new book Contagious Love, and a nationwide speaker. She helps women who feel stuck and stagnant build purpose and confidence in their break-ups, dating life & relationships. Basically, she’s your love-life cheerleader, here to watch you win at love at any stage in your relationship.
You can find her at iamcarlaromo.com and on social @iamcarlaromo.
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