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Quick announcement: Today’s blog is a throwback to May of 2017! We’re re-sharing because it’s the perfect blog to compliment the holiday special we’re running on the Passion Profile Short Course. Scroll down for $50 off the course AND access to a free, private online workshop.


When I was 7, I told anyone who asked that when I grew up I was going to be a journalist. I loved reading and writing, and sometimes I’d flip my mini indoor trampoline on its end and sit behind it and force a babysitter to “watch me on TV” as I read my version of the evening news.

When I was 15, I altered that to “journalist or lawyer” (because my teen years were the ones where I proved, mostly to my poor parents, just how good I was at driving my points home, debating anything and everything, and never backing down from a fight).

When I was 19, I decided to major in Public Relations because it was the closest thing to journalism that my school offered. And even though I was far from sold on either public relations or journalism, I didn’t know what else I wanted to do.

And when I was 22, I flirted with the idea of becoming an archaeologist, mostly because I’d majored in art history and loved it and had also watched The Mummy a lot as a kid.

Since then I’ve played around with the idea of becoming, in no particular order: A staff writer for an online women’s magazine, a relationship advice columnist, a marriage and family therapist, a life and career coach, and oh yeah … a private detective (my friends still want me to do this one).

You might think that these things are all really random. But they’re not. You might also think that it was hard to choose between them. But to be honest, once I knew how to choose, it wasn’t very difficult at all.

THE GOLDEN THREAD

Kristen and I have talked about this before (and we’re definitely not the first to believe this), but it’s worth repeating:

There’s often a deeper pattern — a “golden thread,” if you will — that ties the seemingly random things we’re attracted to together and makes it all clear in the bigger picture.

In my case, you wouldn’t think that being a lawyer, journalist, advice columnist, career coach, marriage therapist, archaeologist, or private detective have all that much in common, at least not across the board.

But when I don’t nit-pick each one — when I instead zoom out and look at them as a whole — there are some clear ties:

When I zoom out, it seems pretty clear that I could have been happy doing any of these things. And I think that logic applies to everyone else, too.

Most of us are attracted to a handful of themes that could manifest themselves in so many different ways.

And that’s good news, because it means that you don’t have to pick just one thing and do it forever. You can have multiple careers across vastly different fields and industries throughout your life.

But you can’t do everything right now. Which means that at least for now, you do have to choose (until it’s time to choose again).

So … how do we choose when any number of things might end up being “right?”

YOU’VE GOT TO STOP FOCUSING ON “WHAT” AND START FOCUSING ON “HOW”

Here’s why it was ultimately easy to settle upon becoming a life and career coach (and business owner), over everything else on my list:

Because more than anything, I value freedom.

The way I saw it, becoming a lawyer meant I would have to work in an office from 9-5 (or let’s face it, 5-9). I didn’t want to be chained to a desk or to a court schedule that I couldn’t control.

The same is true of marriage and family therapy. I didn’t want to have an office or “standard” office hours. I might be able to open my own practice and be in charge, but I would still be tied to a physical location.

With archaeology, one of the biggest problems was the funding. You can’t just go out on Indiana Jones-style adventures whenever you feel like it; your projects need funding (which means you can’t always control what you research). There would definitely be a cap on how much money I could ever make, which didn’t sit well with me.

I could go on, but I think you get the idea. How you do something is just as (if not MORE) important than what you’re doing.

I wanted a way that I could be my own boss. I was always happiest when I was in charge of my own time and creativity, and when I could decide how much money I wanted to make.

That’s what owning my own business has done for me: I get to dig into mysteries, do a lot of writing, and use my emotional intelligence (i.e., I get to do WHAT I love), and I can do all of that in a way that honors my need for freedom (i.e., HOW I do it feels right).

None of those other careers could have done that for me.

HOW TO DO THIS FOR YOURSELF

Most of us have trouble choosing what to do because we’ve made the mistake of assuming that all of our choices are created equal.

When I realized how much I valued freedom, it became clear that all of the career options I was considering weren’t equal at all; one clearly stood out ahead of the rest.

The way you figure out how you’re meant to combine your passion with your work in a way that aligns with your deeper values is through your Passion Profile.

If you need a refresher, take the Passion Profile Quiz and read your result.

If you’re stuck and can’t figure out which direction to go in, stop focusing on the what and start paying attention to the how.

It’s like doing the second half of a math equation and getting frustrated when you keep getting no answer — you haven’t done the first part! How can you expect to find the answer when you’ve left half of the question un-done?

IF YOU NEED HELP WITH THIS, READ ON

The Passion Profile Short Course is like a recipe for your career path. It’s the “secret sauce” that takes the thought out of trying to plot your career direction and prevents you from wasting years of your life hopping from job to job, hoping that you eventually stumble across something you love.

The PPSC might be right for you if:

The PPSC is available 24/7, but between now and this Friday, December 14th, we’re offering the course for $199 instead of the usual $249 — that’s $50 off its normal price! Use code HOLIDAY at checkout.

Need more details? Check out the full PPSC page to see whether this is right for you.

We’re also going to be offering a free, live Q&A workshop session to anyone who buys the PPSC during that window, as well as anyone who’s worked with us in the past!

The live Q&A workshop will be on Friday, January 11, at 1pm EST, which gives you plenty of time to complete the course and submit your Q’s ahead of time. There will be a video replay for those who can’t make it live! You’ll be emailed a registration link after you purchase the course.

And for those of you who’ve done either of our courses, or worked with us 1-on-1 and would like to join the workshop, just email us at [email protected] and we’ll send you a registration link, too.

Remember, you have until this Friday, December 14th to take advantage of this special holiday price. After that, the course goes back to its normal rate.

We hope to see some of you in there! 🙂

Rachel (& Kristen)

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  1. I feel like this episode came at a really key time and I’ve saved it for a re-listen. Even though I’m still processing the PPVE, there’s a part of me that’s still unsure of what I should be doing. Do I hate my job or am I just feeling burnout? Is this still the right field for me? How does this job align with my Core Desired Feelings? Definitely have been asking myself a lot of questions lately and I really liked hearing your path to narrowing everything down.

    Thank you!

    1. I’m glad this hit you at the right time, Alyx! I think the fact that you’re still marinating on a lot of questions is very normal. Maybe the holiday season will be a good time for you to mentally clock out for a bit. A little space and attention on something else may allow some answers to come through in a way that they can’t when we’re super focused on trying to solve a problem, you know? 🙂

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