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Hello from the other side … of 30.
It’s been a month since I left my 20s, and I’m (Rachel) honestly still processing this milestone. I didn’t expect it to bring up so much grief — anger, frustration, sadness, and waves of anxiety and depression.
And while I’ve been riding those waves, it’s become obvious that a lot of people around me are also battling that same current, just for different reasons.
So, this mutual experience got me thinking about big life transitions. What do they have in common? How do we ride them out? Why are they so emotional?
In this month’s Side Chat, we’re talking about:
- What counts as a transition (that might not have occurred to you).
- Why all transitions always come with grief, even when they’re happy.
- The true purpose of grief, and how to let yourself feel the deep emotions of a transition phase, without bottling them up.
- Why you don’t need to try to understand your feelings about the transition you’re in.
- The difference between grief and depression.
- How you can use the often chaotic emotions of a transition to help catapult you forward in life.
After you’ve listened, leave a comment to let us know if you’re in a transition phase and how this episode resonated with you!
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I just wanted to tell you that I’m excited for you. 30’s are the best! 🙂 I’ve absolutely loved my 30’s and wouldn’t go back to my 20’s for anything in the world.
Thanks, Natalie! It’s a relief to know that pretty much everyone I talk to in their 30s has rave reviews about this decade! 😉
Thank you for sharing this side chat, Kristen and Rachel!
I’m currently going through the never-ending transitional feelings (it seems, at least, hah) of my husband being deployed and being gone for a year. Going into this transition, I never realized how my life might need to be reprioritized. I loved this question from the podcast: How has the transition you are going through caused you to ask questions or reprioritize your life?
I feel that through this process, I’ve gotten to know myself better and understand what I need. Though so many things are still unknown, it’s really refreshing to understand that grieving comes from all kinds of transitions and when something in our life causes us to reevaluate, we should listen to grow and not suppress the newness/uncomfortable realizations. That’s been a huge challenge for me. Thanks again! This was great!
That’s a really challenging transition, Jade — it’s no wonder you’re feeling so many emotions about it! It’s awesome that you’re starting to ask the deeper questions and taking this time to get to know yourself better. Even though this is a tough time, you’re already seeing that there’s growth potential for both you and your husband in this phase. So glad the podcast helped reframe this experience for you! 🙂
Definitely added this COF episode to my saved folder! I never considered my “sobbing when thinking about a future” as potential grief and fear of the future/a new transition – and am now wrapping my mind around how these emotions can be used to move on to the next step. So much to unpack in this episode.
So glad this resonated with you, Alyx! Yes, your grief when thinking about the future is a totally normal reaction to the thought of transition. And remember, there’s not necessarily a need to understand that grief now. I think in time your feelings will be obvious! But for now, it’s OK to just feel it and let it flow. 🙂
I definitely saved this COF episode for future listens. I never considered that crying for my potential future dreams as actual grief for my past self (and what I’ve overcome) and also because of fear I’m experiencing for that future. So much to unpack in this episode. Looking forward to using these chaotic emotions of a transition to help catapult me forward.
Thank you again!