As Samuel L. Jackson said in Jurassic Park, “Hold on to your butts.”
He was talking about dinosaurs, but honestly, we’re talking about something that a lot of people find equally terrifying: How to let go of your compulsion to please everyone around you.
In preparation for this episode, we both read The Disease to Please by Harriet Braiker, PhD., and OH MAN, there is a lot to get into.
If you’re someone who feels impaired by the compulsion to put others’ needs first, to never say “no,” to strive endlessly for everyone’s approval, and to try to make everyone else happy, all while being as NICE as possible and avoiding conflict like it’s your job … strap yourself in and get ready to have your world rocked (in a GOOD WAY).
In this episode we talk about:
- How to recognize ALL the signs of people pleasing, even the ones you aren’t aware of.
- Why people pleasing is an addiction, and how you got the “disease” in the first place.
- Why you struggle with saying “no,” being rejected, and feeling guilty 24/7.
- Why you’re so burnt-out and quietly resentful of others.
- How to let go of your need for approval and being “liked.”
- How to get comfortable with conflict and confrontation.
- How you can actually learn what YOU like and who YOU are (because the real you has been buried under trying to be everything for everyone else).
Come leave us a comment after you’ve listened and let us know if you’ve got the disease to please, and what you’re going to do about it now!
IF YOU LIKED THIS EPISODE, YOU SHOULD ALSO LISTEN TO:
- Emotional Constipation with Joanna Platt
- Side Chat: We are not the crazy ones (How to tell if you’re a highly sensitive person)
- You can’t cure the human experience with Kyle Ramsvig